Brethren, even if anyone is caught in any trespass, you who are spiritual, restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness…
If your perception of Christianity comes from the church alone, then you probably never expected to find this verse in the Bible. No one ever wants to say anything about their life because they’re afraid of the judgement that might come with it or they fear that the other person is going to pour salt on an already burning wound.
I’m sure there are plenty of people out there who would do such a thing to. But according to Paul, that is not the right way to go about things. Instead, we need to react with one of the gifts of the Spirit: gentleness.
Am I talking about de-emphasizing the sin? No.
I’m talking about your method of counseling being born out of the gentleness of God. The same God that your ancestors disobeyed and blasphemed over and over again. The same God who forgave His people age by age and stuck with us regardless of our continual offense. It’s that kind of unconditional loving-gentleness that completely eradicates our human understanding.
That’s how you restore someone.
Now there may be a time for your gentleness to have a bit more of a sturdier edge than other times, but altogether we need to learn as a body of Christians to council each other in the Spirit and not in the flesh that still has a two by four shoved up its eye.